Maudlin and Associates ™
Karen Maudlin
Psy.D., CPCC
Kenneth Davison
Cindy Takiguchi
Manette Galván Turner
Robert Gregory
Daniel Doebler
Trevor Simpson

No parent wants to get angry with his or her children, but it does happen. If you sometimes struggle to control your anger, family counselor Cindy Takiguchi offers some practical, step-by-step advice:

  1. Take a time-out. Go into your bedroom and read a magazine, a favorite book or a passage of Scripture. Don’t leave your room until you’re no longer focused on your anger.

  2. Apologize to your kids. Acknowledge that you lost your temper and that you were wrong. Talk about how angry outbursts can hurt those we love and share ideas for ways to better handle stressful situations.

  3. Tell another adult. This important step makes you accountable to someone beside your children. Whether you talk to a close friend or your spouse, explain that sometimes you might need to call them to vent your anger in order to avoid blowing up at the kids. Ask that they pray for you and help you keep tabs on your temper in the future.

  4. Talk to God. Confess your sin honestly. When we are truthful about our behavior, God honors that and helps us change that behavior.

  5. Enforce appropriate discipline. If you blew up because your child disobeyed a family rule, he still needs to face the consequences of that behavior. Don’t be lax in your discipline in order to make up for losing your temper. Explain that although you were wrong in how you handled your anger, his disobedience also was wrong and can’t be ignored.